00:18:19 Candace Kielbiski: The next 3 questions to be asked by: 00:18:23 Candace Kielbiski: Heather 00:18:26 Candace Kielbiski: Katrina 00:18:33 Candace Kielbiski: Dasha 00:21:17 Candace Kielbiski: https://www.ahaparenting.com/ask-the-doctor-1/reframing_rewards_punishment_system_used_at_my_childs_school?A=SearchResult&SearchID=11615369&ObjectID=4013699&ObjectType=35 00:31:43 Matrona Ward: I've been working through Mona Delahooke's book. It's called Beyond Behaviors. 00:31:54 Candace Kielbiski: https://www.stephenporges.com/ 00:32:10 Hannah Morley-Fletcher: LOVED Mona Delahooke's book 00:32:28 Candace Kielbiski: https://monadelahooke.com/ 00:33:09 Veronika Rosova: Lovely to listen to Dr. Laura´s voice and advice even for just 20 minutes that I had today. Greetings to everybody!! 00:44:20 Kelly Lubeck: Katrina, I have a highly sensitive kiddo with plenty of sensory issues - and very tuned in and articulate about what his bodily needs and limits are. Pooping was often a stressful event (and he needed lots of support around the pooping and wiping). We ended up getting a bidet when the world was running out of TP last year - and it has completely changed the poop behavior and his sense of autonomy and independence. and he loves the bidet! Admittedly, he doesn’t want to poop anywhere else anymore, but he will. Something shifted. Just sharing in case it’s helpful! 00:47:43 Matrona Ward: nope... 00:47:43 Natalia Boyko: I can hear Candace 00:47:45 Thea: It was freezing for me too 00:47:48 Kelly Lubeck: No, can’t hear anything 00:47:54 Kelly Lubeck: and people keep shifting on the screen 00:47:55 Thea: But I heard you Candace 00:47:57 Chaya Weinberg: Freezing me too 00:48:03 Natalia Boyko: I couldn 00:48:03 Kelly Lubeck: Yes, heard you, Candace 00:48:09 Natalia Boyko: I could not hear the question 00:48:16 Chaya Weinberg: yes! 00:48:18 Kelly Lubeck: yes 00:48:19 Heather Nitz: yes 00:48:41 Natalia Boyko: I think the speaker is gone 00:48:44 Thea: no 00:50:44 Katrina Brown: @Kelly Lubeck thank you so much for sharing that. So good to hear we are not the only ones. And good to hear that somehow forcing the kids NOT to do such washing behaviours is not necessarily the solution (I really wasn’t sure how that could pan out in a way that honoured my daughter’s own body autonomy) 00:53:12 Candace Kielbiski: https://www.heysigmund.com/products/hey-warrior/ 00:53:33 Kelly Lubeck: oh, so glad to hear you’ll offer that one, Dr. Laura! 00:54:59 Candace Kielbiski: Next three questions~ 00:55:02 Candace Kielbiski: Veronic 00:55:04 Candace Kielbiski: Hannah 00:55:14 Candace Kielbiski: Allison 00:57:25 Candace Kielbiski: http://www.susanjeffers.com/home/detailtemplate.cfm?catID=2234 for adults 00:58:48 Matrona Ward: In this vein I'd love to have a spotlight on self-esteem sometime. 01:04:28 Matrona Ward: Dasha, my 4yos have a therapist who we call their "feelings teacher". Dr. Laura is right, it's not a cure, but I love having her as a resource to help me deal with the fallout from their dad leaving the home last year. She does games that help them calm themselves, control impulses, etc. She specializes in kids under 5. I got the referral from our pediatrician's office. 01:06:36 Sherry Boone: Thanks so Much Dr Laura and Candace Blessings on you 01:07:20 Kelly Lubeck: Thank you so much - always so good to be here, hear all of you parents and hear Dr. Laura’s wisdom. SO grateful! I’m running to another meeting but wishes for a wonderful day, all! 01:12:52 Heather Nitz: We're new to the Success Path and this was our first Office Hours. It was super helpful! Dr. Markham, you have a very soothing and reassuring presence. Thanks for taking my question. Thanks to everyone for the support and additional suggestions/resources! I have to run. Have a great weekend! 01:21:22 Barbara Paixao: I got a listening partner by asking on the peaceful parenting Facebook group. Someone some forward and said she was willing to try with me. we meet normally once a week and each talks either 10 or 5 minutes. Even 5 minutes each is ok. 01:22:27 Hannah Morley-Fletcher: I ust asked a friend and we agreed about our "rules" and our "goals as parents" for that space and we have a phone call every week for an hour. it's been great 01:22:39 Chaya Weinberg: I have one! I found her on the facebook group. We meet for a half hour once a week and each talk 15-20 minutes. It is wonderful! We can say whatever to each other and both listen to each other… 01:23:48 Barbara Paixao: You can also go to the hand in hand parenting approach and ask for a listening partner. This is very helpful. It's like having free therapy. We've both found that one someone just listen even 5 minutes go a long way. 01:25:29 Barbara Paixao: The main purpose of the the list. partnership is to bring up your own emotions in order that they get processed and released. You gradually become a softer person. 01:26:36 Veronic Clair: Thank you so much for the answer Dr. Markham. About powerlessness, do you let your kid know that we are powerless on so many levels? 01:26:47 Barbara Paixao: you can find videos about it in the hand in hand parenting website or on YouTube. 01:28:09 Rachel D: I've been thinking about posting on the FB group about finding a listening partner too. It has felt like a lonely year with the pandemic and a new baby. Just shows how important connection is. This will be my motivation! 01:32:21 Barbara Paixao: I do put ear protectors on sometimes when my son is terribly loud. My strong emotions go down almost immediately and I become nicer to my son. 01:33:15 Candace Kielbiski: I also know a number of caregivers that have found noise cancelling headphones so helpful 01:37:25 Candace Kielbiski: https://www.ahaparenting.com/Default.aspx?PageID=7652619&A=SearchResult&SearchID=11615392&ObjectID=7652619&ObjectType=1 01:37:29 Aimee Petty: Allison, I have 3 kids also and a 15 month old, and I just want to know I see you! I really resonate with your question 01:37:46 Lindsey Etheridge: Nursing while getting parenting advice!!! You are amazing Allison! What a cool group of parents this is. 💕 01:47:53 Candace Kielbiski: I have noted everyone who has their hand up, and we will attempt to get to you next time :) 01:53:20 Allison Henderson: Thank you Aimee and Lindsey! Grateful for your comments and this community. 01:56:22 Candace Kielbiski: https://www.ahaparenting.com/ask-the-doctor-1/how-to-get-toddler-to-brush-teeth?A=SearchResult&SearchID=11615400&ObjectID=3594596&ObjectType=35 02:01:31 Matrona Ward: There was interference in the call, I didn't quite hear what she said could keep the cavities at bay? 02:02:59 Candace Kielbiski: There are flouride style kid mouthwashes, to help with cavaties 02:05:01 Candace Kielbiski: We did this! 02:05:24 Candace Kielbiski: They are called Sleep Dentists in Canada 02:05:56 Matrona Ward: Thank you :) 02:07:24 Aimee Petty: ACT is what the mouthwash was called. used it with my brother 02:07:46 Allison Henderson: We let our kids brush our teeth and turn it into a fun little game of connection when resistance comes up. 02:07:54 Lindsey Etheridge: Thank you everyone for the suggestions! 02:09:26 Barbara Paixao: In the UK there are pediatric dentists and dentists for people with learning disabilities and special needs. My son was 10 weeks premature and had cavities by 2 years of age. was seen by one of these dentists who drilled his teeth and put fillings in with no problem at all. They give them a gas that relaxes them and goes through a beautiful nose with a lovely smell. They used some kind of hypnotherapy at the same time. Fir my son it was amazing. He had a great experience and loved almost every appointment. 02:09:41 Terri Knutson: quick question... is it possible to get the chat notes from the last office hours? a night time meditation story was recommended and I was hoping to see if the info was in the chat. I didn't see it on the page with the audio... 02:10:10 Chaya Weinberg: Thank you!! 02:10:13 Lindsey Etheridge: Thank you Barbara!