Stop the fighting.
Help your children build a bond that lasts a lifetime.
Grounded in neuroscience and real-life family coaching, this book gives you practical, step-by-step tools to reduce sibling fighting, ease the transition to a new baby, and raise children who actually enjoy each other.
Over 150,000 copies sold • 914+ Amazon reviews
If you're exhausted by the fighting, the bickering, the "it's not fair" — you're not alone.
If you have more than one child, you’ve probably seen moments like these:
• “I can’t even drive safely—they can’t keep their hands off each other.”
• “She loves her brother... but her hugs somehow turn into choking.”
• “I came out of the shower and realized he had peed on the baby.”
Some days, it can feel relentless—like you’re constantly refereeing and trying to keep everyone safe. If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone.
Sibling conflict is natural. Young children are wired to compete for your time and attention, and they don’t yet have the skills to manage big emotions or work things out peacefully. But without support, those patterns can take hold and erode the closeness you want your kids to share.
But here’s the good news:
The sibling relationship is one of the most powerful places children learn emotional intelligence, empathy, and lifelong relationship skills.
And parents can make a tremendous difference in shaping that relationship.
Even if your children are already struggling, it is absolutely possible to help them move toward a more peaceful, respectful connection.
Imagine your children:
- • Working things out instead of escalating.
- • Laughing together more than fighting.
- • Standing up for themselves without hurting each other.
- • Feeling secure enough that they don’t have to compete for your love.
That kind of relationship doesn’t happen by accident.
But with the right support, it grows—day by day. Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings shows you a different path—one where siblings learn to work things out, advocate for themselves, and become real sources of comfort and support for each other.
“This book completely changed the dynamic between my three children. If you have more than one child, get your hands on this book.”
— Sarah
Praise for Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings
What makes this book different?
Most parenting advice focuses on stopping fighting in the moment. This book helps you change the dynamic between your children.
You'll find real scripts, step-by-step coaching tools, and strategies that actually work—even for children who seem temperamentally mismatched.
Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings
You’ll learn how to:
- • Regulate your own emotions so you can stay calm in hard moments. You create a calmer home—and your children learn from your modeling.
- • Stay deeply connected with each child—even while setting limits. When each child feels secure with you, they feel less need to compete—and more ability to connect.
- • Coach your children to express feelings, solve problems, and repair after conflict. You can use conflict as an opportunity to teach emotional intelligence, problem-solving, and lifelong relationship skills.
914+ Reviews on Amazon
“Finally, a book that answers your questions around sibling rivalry! In this insightful book, Dr. Markham draws on scientific research to craft smart strategies that any parent can use to help their children resolve conflicts with empathy, mindfulness and peace. A must-read for every parent.”
— Dr. Shefali
What you’ll learn in this book
The core peaceful parenting tools that help families move from conflict to connection.
- Scripts for the hardest moments — from mean words to physical fights.
- How to help siblings work through conflict — and how to use it to teach real skills.
- The 10 reasons children bicker — and how to resolve each one.
- How to ease competition and the "it's not fair!" spiral.
- Scripts for the hardest moments — from mean words to physical fights.
- How to stop repeated aggression - without punishment.
- Why “forced sharing” often backfires—and what to do instead.
- How to ease the transition when a new baby arrives.
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Which book is right for you?
Start where your family needs the most support right now.
Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids
Best for parents who want a calmer, more connected family life. Learn how to stop yelling, set limits that help children cooperate, and build the strong parent-child relationship that inspires emotional resilience.
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Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings
Best for families dealing with sibling rivalry, competition, and conflict. Learn how to reduce fighting, teach real conflict-resolution skills, and help siblings build a stronger relationship — including through the transition to a new baby.
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Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids Workbook
Best for parents who want guided support putting peaceful parenting into practice. The Workbook helps you strengthen empathy, connection, and limit-setting while regulating your own emotions and working through your triggers.
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What parents are saying
“Dr. Laura Markham is America’s parenting coach”
— Philadelphia Weekly
Meet Dr. Laura Markham
Dr. Laura Markham is a Clinical Psychologist trained at Columbia University and the founder of PeacefulParentHappyKids.com.
For over 30 years, she has helped parents create calmer homes, stronger relationships, and emotionally healthy children. As a mother of two—and through her work with tens of thousands of families—she has seen firsthand how sibling relationships can shift, sometimes dramatically, when parents change how they respond.
More about Dr. Laura
“Laura Markham brilliantly applies her respectful, attuned, limit-setting approach to sibling dynamics. Full of realistic scenarios and scripts for how parents can turn conflict into opportunities to build skills, and turn parental dread into meaningful intervention. Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings masterfully coaches parents on how to honor each child's experience, set limits, reduce conflict, and build skills for life.”
— Dr. Tina Payne Bryson
Where are you right now?
You’re expecting a new baby
This book helps you create a warm, connected start for your growing family.
- Prepare your child emotionally before the baby arrives.
- Ease jealousy, regression, and big emotions.
- Help your older child feel secure, even while sharing you.
- Foster connection between your children from the very beginning.
Your children are already fighting
This book gives you practical tools to reduce conflict and guide your children toward a more peaceful relationship.
- Know what to do when one child hurts the other.
- Help both children with big emotions at the same time.
- Coach problem-solving instead of blame or punishment.
- Build a family culture of respect, cooperation, and connection.
“The ideas I’ve implemented from this book, primarily her insights on sharing (or not sharing) and the importance of one-on-one connection when having multiple children, immediately improved the relationships in our family.”
— Carly
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Peaceful Parent Course
Many parents read Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings and find themselves wanting more support putting the Peaceful Parenting ideas into practice. The Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids Course gives you step-by-step guidance — with coaching, community, and tools you can use right away.
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A Path Toward Peace Between Your Children
Sibling conflict can feel overwhelming—but it doesn’t have to define your family. Over time, with your guidance, your children can learn to understand each other, stand up for themselves without hurting each other, and even become a source of comfort and support. You have more influence than you think—and you don’t have to figure this out alone. This book gives you a clear, step-by-step path—so change begins one small moment at a time.