Healing Your Ability To Love Unconditionally Workbook

We all know how important it is for kids to have lots of love so they can grow up well. But sometimes, we might not feel like we have enough love to give, especially if we don't feel very good about ourselves. The first step to loving our children is to learn to love ourselves. You can even think of this as reparenting yourself.

If you didn't have a perfect childhood and sometimes you feel grumpy instead of kind, does that mean you can't be a good parent? Nope, not at all. Studies show that our hearts can get bigger and we can learn to be nicer to ourselves and others. 

Being a mom or dad helps us get better at this because we really care about our kids, so we're willing to do the hard work of healing ourselves. And it's worth it! The good news is that when our hearts get bigger, we become not only better parents, but happier people!

Healing your ability to love takes daily attention and commitment, but it's quite do-able. This 101-page workbook is chock-full of exercises and inspiration to show you how.  Here's the Table of Contents:

1. Forgive Yourself for Not Being Perfect

2. Unconditional Love is Like a Muscle

3. Commit to Radical Self-Care

4. Heal Your Childhood

5. Heal Your Heart, Heal Your Life

6. Walk in Your Child's Shoes

7. Can You Love Unconditionally When You're Furious?

8. Don't Get Hijacked-- Take the High Road! 

9. What if You've Made Mistakes As a Parent?

10. Re-wire Your Brain for Love

There is no such thing as a perfect parent. But it is entirely possible to gradually become the parent you want to be, most of the time. After all, you have live-in teachers and 24/7 lessons! Use your mistakes to your advantage. They aren’t mistakes if you learn from them; they’re life lessons in your parenting PhD. That’s why spiritual masters call it a Practice!

Print this workbook out, put it in a binder, and complete a page or two every day. Remind yourself daily to put what you're learning into practice when you relate to your child, and yourself. You'll be growing your ability to choose love in those tough moments, and that's what changes your brain. 

Just keep practicing, bringing awareness to each interaction, finding that moment of freedom between the stimulus (your child's behavior) and your own reaction. Noticing is what gives you a choice next time. The miracle of one foot in front of the other, in the right direction, is that one day you look around, and all the scenery is different.

Pretty soon, you'll find yourself in a whole new landscape.

Repeat daily. Enjoy the journey. Watch your life transform.